Sometimes God reveals new truth to us in moments of silence and solitude. The tragedy in this? I don't seek these moments nearly enough. Here's one moment when God revealed Himself as my Protector and Defender. The following passage is an excerpt from Grieve, Create, Believe: Process Your Loss with Intention and Truth, Chapter 8: … Continue reading Defending by Surrendering
After the death of someone you love, you might feel isolated and misunderstood. In our Griefshare Class (griefshare.org), we learned about writing a letter to those around you to help them understand your grief. In this letter or email to your family or coworkers, you can take an opportunity to share some of your current … Continue reading How to Write a Grief Letter
Is there space for gratitude in your grief? I never knew I could be grateful for loss, but it has given me perspective that I would never otherwise have. To be honest, it took a lot of time and processing to get to this point. It’s okay if you’re not there. I am thankful for … Continue reading Open to Gratitude
After Winnie died, I wanted flowers painted everywhere. I made hundreds of ornaments with her tiny photo surrounded by wildflowers. I hung up artwork with flowers, and I started painting flowers on a huge embroidery hoop stretched with burlap. And then one day I didn’t want to create flowers. I hung the painting—incomplete—and it remained … Continue reading waiting for painted flowers
My baby has another mama. Her first mama, her birth mama. Her grew-her and knew-her mama. I think of this mama often, especially when I pass the hospital where her heart broke, and my heart broke open, and a baby girl was born. We’re not so different, her and I. We were little girls once, … Continue reading my baby has another mama
I’m writing a book. Whew. It takes a whole lot of courage to admit that I’m working on this project. Maybe I’m scared of it not happening? Or maybe I’m overwhelmed by enthusiasm? Maybe I still think it’s silly and trivial? I’m about halfway done with the first draft and 120-something pages in, so I … Continue reading a book!
I am often asked how someone can be of support to others in their grief. Here are some simple, straightforward and practical ways you can show your love. -Your willingness to be loving, kind, supportive, and present goes a really long way. Reaching out and showing love means so much. Your thoughts and prayers (even … Continue reading helping someone through grief