Is there space for gratitude in your grief? I never knew I could be grateful for loss, but it has given me perspective that I would never otherwise have. To be honest, it took a lot of time and processing to get to this point. It’s okay if you’re not there. I am thankful for … Continue reading Open to Gratitude
After Winnie died, I wanted flowers painted everywhere. I made hundreds of ornaments with her tiny photo surrounded by wildflowers. I hung up artwork with flowers, and I started painting flowers on a huge embroidery hoop stretched with burlap. And then one day I didn’t want to create flowers. I hung the painting—incomplete—and it remained … Continue reading waiting for painted flowers
My baby has another mama. Her first mama, her birth mama. Her grew-her and knew-her mama. I think of this mama often, especially when I pass the hospital where her heart broke, and my heart broke open, and a baby girl was born. We’re not so different, her and I. We were little girls once, … Continue reading my baby has another mama
I’m writing a book. Whew. It takes a whole lot of courage to admit that I’m working on this project. Maybe I’m scared of it not happening? Or maybe I’m overwhelmed by enthusiasm? Maybe I still think it’s silly and trivial? I’m about halfway done with the first draft and 120-something pages in, so I … Continue reading a book!
I am often asked how someone can be of support to others in their grief. Here are some simple, straightforward and practical ways you can show your love. -Your willingness to be loving, kind, supportive, and present goes a really long way. Reaching out and showing love means so much. Your thoughts and prayers (even … Continue reading helping someone through grief
We recently went on a trip to China (for business) and Thailand (for fun). It probably goes without saying that these countries are very different from the U.S. (especially China). We ate lots of interesting and different foods and tried our best to observe and learn about the cultures. One of the obvious things we … Continue reading reflecting on God and gods and a request for this Christmas | by Sam
Years ago, people wore black for long periods of time to signify mourning. How I wish there was an outward symbol now! How I wish that people would know a broken, grieving heart when they saw it! Can we do our best to encourage this honesty? It's biblical to lament. There are almost endless examples … Continue reading permission to lament