Sometimes God reveals new truth to us in moments of silence and solitude. The tragedy in this? I don't seek these moments nearly enough. Here's one moment when God revealed Himself as my Protector and Defender. The following passage is an excerpt from Grieve, Create, Believe: Process Your Loss with Intention and Truth, Chapter 8: … Continue reading Defending by Surrendering
After the death of someone you love, you might feel isolated and misunderstood. In our Griefshare Class (griefshare.org), we learned about writing a letter to those around you to help them understand your grief. In this letter or email to your family or coworkers, you can take an opportunity to share some of your current … Continue reading How to Write a Grief Letter
Is there space for gratitude in your grief? I never knew I could be grateful for loss, but it has given me perspective that I would never otherwise have. To be honest, it took a lot of time and processing to get to this point. It’s okay if you’re not there. I am thankful for … Continue reading Open to Gratitude
On my 33rd birthday, after an ECHO scan of baby boy and a lunch of pho and bubble tea, Sam and I took a walk around our old campus at the University of Illinois. We love visiting and reminiscing on some of our favorite years (most of which we didn’t spend together, since we started … Continue reading The Duty of Delight
After Winnie died, I wanted flowers painted everywhere. I made hundreds of ornaments with her tiny photo surrounded by wildflowers. I hung up artwork with flowers, and I started painting flowers on a huge embroidery hoop stretched with burlap. And then one day I didn’t want to create flowers. I hung the painting—incomplete—and it remained … Continue reading waiting for painted flowers
We’re grateful for the children God has given us to love. Our first baby would be five, Clive would be four, Winnie would be three, and Corrie is two. For being a household with just one crazy 2 year old running around, we carry the unseen fullness of more. Sometimes our hearts feel spent with … Continue reading another baby George!
The legislation in NY allowing for full-term abortions has caused a variety of reactions: disgust, anger, indignation, judgement, sadness, silence, even validation. Many people have reacted with a simple and heartfelt response: “adoption is the answer.” While I agree it is part of the answer, I believe it is an extremely over-simplified response to this … Continue reading Adoption is an Over-Simplified Answer to Abortion