It’s been a few months since we last updated about our adoption. We’ve had a lot of time waiting, and unfortunately our homestudy (approval to adopt) is not yet complete. We’ve gotten caught in the midst of some staffing changes at the agency we are using for a homestudy, and it’s taken quite a lot longer than we expected. We’re getting close! Meanwhile we’re finishing up our adoption profile and video.
In this time, we’ve had a lot of time to think through what we want to do next. There are endless choices in agencies to use for the matching and placement with a baby. We’ve narrowed it down to a couple excellent choices. We’ve decided our priorities are to use an agency that does a high number of adoptions a year, is very well staffed, and has a short potential wait time. We’ve decided against trying to find our own birth mother (which can be a much more affordable option) because it would be too taxing emotionally. We have already experienced a lot of ups and downs in this adoption and feel that we need to have an agency or attorney that will buffer all inquiries and potential matches. In the search for agencies and/or attorneys that meet our needs, we have found that they are very expensive. Being well-staffed, available to answer questions, transparent about things, and having a lot of resources comes with a higher price tag. After several days of anxiety and near panic attacks about the cost, I (Rachel) have just had to come to the acceptance that this is the best road for us. It doesn’t eliminate the risks, but it does help us have a better chance of a short wait and excellent guidance/care/protection for the process.
Our adoption costs are estimated to be about $45,000-$50,000 in total.
· Expectant Mother’s Living Expenses (limited to a specific amount), Support/Counseling & Medical Expenses
· The Baby’s Medical Expenses
· Legal Fees
· Administration and Advertising Fees (to find a match)
· Profile Fees
· ICPC (Interstate Compact on the Placement of Children) Fees
· Home Study & Post Placement Fees
This amount is so huge and so overwhelming. But, we continue to feel assured that this is what we need to do. We’re continuing to save our own money, but we know that we can’t do this alone. We’ve been blessed to raise over $7,000 so far in t-shirts (through Etsy and Mad Goat) and a Noonday Jewelry sale. Rather than wearing ourselves out (and all our family and friends) from doing a lot of smaller fundraisers, we’re going to try to concentrate our efforts on a one or two larger fundraisers. We decided to create a YouCaring page because many people expressed interest in donating money. (Read on to see what we’ll be giving away when we draw a name at the end of the fundraiser!)
-We have stickers for change jars if your kiddos want to collect change for us! Several kids have been so sweet (they love Clive and Winnie so much!) and donated over $50 to us! We can mail you a sticker, and just ask that you write a check for the total at the end (rather than giving us all the change)
-As a small gesture from us, when our adoption is complete we’ll draw a name (from those who donate anything more than $100) to win a year subscription of monthly bean delivery from Mad Goat Coffee (or equivalent in gift card). You can donate through PayPal, YouCaring, or mail to do this. In addition, your name or donation amount can still remain anonymous to other viewers on the YouCaring page if you wish to keep it private.
Thank you so much for your generosity, kindness, love, care, and compassion. Thank you for being our village. Thank you for sharing this post or our YouCaring page link. Thank you for your continued prayers.
Sam and Rachel